sex education, parents gude, when to begin

When should I start giving my children sex education? As soon as your child can talk, identify objects, and understand instructions, that’s the perfect time to start giving them sex education; but not in details, at this stage, you need to show them the private parts of their bodies, and tell them what it is being called, and warn them sternly should anyone touches their private parts, they should report to you. That should be your first stage of sex education. And you have to warn them, not to play with their sex organ or touch anyone’s own, you have to make them understand that it is a taboo for them to touch someone’s private’s part or for anyone else to touch their own without their permission. And, if you have a daughter or daughters, you needed to be more careful handling them, you need to do a lot of work looking out for them. It is unacceptable for the opposite sex adult to call your daughter my wife, or to carry her in his laps. Some men are sick in the head. They don’t deserve to have a woman in their position, talk more of a female child. Such men are all out there and you needed to protect your daughter from such predators. And, for your sons also, know whom you keep them with, in our word today, such a thing as trust does not exist anymore. And as they grow, maybe, from four years upwards, let your male child know that he is a male and distinctive with his male private organ, and let your daughter know also that she is a woman with her distinctive female private organ. Still stressing the fact that their private parts is sacred and should not be touched by anyone, be it who they know or a stranger. Having told them all these, be rest assured that they will come to report to you any form of abuse they encounter. And not only that, they will not be naïve to tell their intended molesters to keep off from their private parts. If you were able to achieve this one aim at the tender age of their lives, you have already laid a foundation that would solve the remaining of the problem, when they get to their adolescent age. In their adolescent age is when you will have more challenge. If you have not been communicating with your children teaching them everything, even sex education. It will be very hard to for them to listen to you in their adolescence age. It is indeed a very critical stage of their life, if you do not convinced them to follow your lead at their tender age; it will be very hard for them for follow you at their adolescence. This is because, in the adolescence, they succumb more to peers pressures, than the words, from their parents and guidance. But if you had already built a cordial relationship with them; earlier in life, they will take your word seriously, even more than they can take from their peers. And that is why you needed to start early to build all round communication with your children, you must communicate to them about everything, do not let them take advice from outside. And how, will you be able to achieve this? It’s simple; have a good relationship with them, from the get go. Take them very serious whenever they come to complain to you about every small thing. Do not chase them away. Pay a close attention whenever they came complaining about any flimsy thing, and try to proffer a solution to their little problems. That’s one of the easiest way to make your children trust and dependent on you. A lot of parents, scare their children away, each time they come to complain or share a little problem with them. If you are the kind of parent that does that; you are giving your children the license to go seek for answers from elsewhere. And when the problem starts coming, you and your family will be the one to suffer it. Tell your children about human reproduction early enough- even before they were taught in school. Tell them about family, tell them that the purpose of family is procreation. Make them agree with you that sexual intercourse outside husband and wife is morally wrong; and can lead to many regret. Tell them about the dangers of single and teenage parents. Tell them how early pregnancy can hinder them their chances of fulfilling their dreams in life, or pursuing their career. Immediately your daughter sees her menstruation make her understand that she can get pregnant should any man have his way with her. Do everything within your power to impact in your children in the way they will understand sex education before their adolescence stage. So, after this stage, be more detailed when you explain things to them, tell them everything they need to know, don’t manage word, if you are economical with word; you might be destroying your own family. Tell them, about disease, sexual intercourse can give, tell them about venereal diseases, virus and even the dreaded HIV/AIDs that comes with sexual pleasure outside the circle of certified husbands and wives. For your daughters, inquire to know who her male friends are, and for your sons do the same. And to do this; you need to crack them open, by making them dependent on you about every decision of their life. And that starts the moment you started teaching them everything and paying a close attention at every little thing they came home to complain about. In a nutshell, the best way to win your children’s hearts is to be their best friend.