My husband comes home every night late and drunk and its killing me slowly We been married for eight years now, and our marriage is being blessed with fruit of the womb, two boys and one girl. I and my husband dated for about three years before the marriage. I think I knew him in and out, he practically told me everything. He never keeps secret from me. And this was one of the major reasons why I loved Ebuka. Even after we got married, he never desists from telling me things about his private life. Or, is there supposed to be anything privacy in marriage? Well, to Ebuka such thing like privacy does not exist in marriage. He told me virtually everything- I knew the password to all of his ATM cards, I have the password to his social media apps, I can comfortably log into any of them with my own phone, and the most amazing part of it all is that immediately we got married, he made me the next of kin to all of his assets and bank accounts. As if that was not enough. Wh...

When should I start giving my children sex education? As soon as your child can talk, identify objects, and understand instructions, that’s the perfect time to start giving them sex education; but not in details, at this stage, you need to show them the private parts of their bodies, and tell them what it is being called, and warn them sternly should anyone touches their private parts, they should report to you. That should be your first stage of sex education. And you have to warn them, not to play with their sex organ or touch anyone’s own, you have to make them understand that it is a taboo for them to touch someone’s private’s part or for anyone else to touch their own without their permission. And, if you have a daughter or daughters, you needed to be more careful handling them, you need to do a lot of work looking out for them. It is unacceptable for the opposite sex adult to call your daughter my wife, or to carry her in his laps. Some men are sick in the head. They don’t des...

What should I do? I caught my best friend pants down with my 15 years old son. We were friends from childhood, through university and the struggles for survival as young adult. I never, looked at Linda's men, even though she was more lucky than me in getting loving and careering men. So, why would she ruin my only sons life? Why? I am a single parent, I had john, when I was 16, the dad denied the pregnancy, I suffered abuses and humiliation, from friends and family, but my poor mother stood by me, collected the baby from me, and looked after him, while I further my education. Linda saw all my struggles and how suitors rejected me because I had John in my teen. Linda is married with a 3 years old daughter, her husband is based abroad and comes back once in a while. I am a banker, while she works with the ministry of agriculture in the state government. Because she closes work earlier, my John always go to her house after school, while I pick him up in the evening after work. This...

Generally, women are being referred to, as the weaker sex. And this tag can be visibly seen from the physical aspect of mankind, which comprises both the male and the female gender. Physically, men are by far stronger than women. But women has their own strength though, that man cannot contest. But we are not here today to talk about who is stronger between man and woman. We are here to talk about why female child should be given more attention in the family. Girl child are so fragile; evaluate , the toughness, between your female and male children, you will come to notice that female children are more fragile, than their male counterpart. And, that starts from their physical appearance. Female children are softer in appearance, than the male. And that softness is what you are meant to protect in her. Don’t ever, let her, lose that touch of softness. Women are better kept soft, than hard heartedness. A hardened woman does not think twice, their mind is always determined and made up....

Eight effects of being abused as a male child I have read on the social media, on several occasions, about teenagers who were sexually abused by women; old enough to be there mother; but the reactions coming from the masses were not always impressive. Instead of the commenters to condemn the act, point blank, as bad as it is, they were busy hailing the minor of enjoying the sex, which in the real sense, was an act of abuse. When a male minor is being abused sexually the society sees it as an enjoyment for the young male, but when a female is being abused the society sees it as a real child abuse. Why is our society so partial, about their judgment on both male and female minor sexual abuse? Why isn’t a lot of people championing the campaign for the abuse of young male child? There are psychological and social consequences for male children who were being abused. The worst of the consequences is injustice, every male child that was being abused d...

The unsuspected people that can sexually abuse your male child In the world full of pervert and child molesters, one has to perpetually put his or her child in check, knowing fully well that the world is full of sick people; who seek to satisfy their sexual urge in the wrong places and wrong ways. In whatever you do, you must know this, all of us are not healthy, mentally. You might be mentally okay, but your neighbor might not be. Just because he or she makes a lot of sense each time you guys talk, you think he or she has a sound-mind, you must be kidding me. Out of trust, many moms and dads, has destroyed the lives of their children in the hands of pervert aunties and uncles. The most annoying part of it is that the society has gone crazy, because a good number of people thinks that male child cannot be abused because they don’t have hymen which can be broken in the cause of penetration. Male child abuse has never been a news sensation; and the society ha...

How to break away from toxic friends A good friendship, is a vital part of human social life. Life would be monotonous and boring without a friendship. A good friend can turn your darkness into brightness. While a bad friend can turn your sunshine into darkness. Some people keep coming out and going into friendship that was not meant to be in the first place. They are people you should have never addressed as friends in the first place. They better remain acquaintance they were meant to be in the first place. And this is absolutely where a lot of people get it all wrong-calling an acquaintance a friend. Who is a friend, and who is an acquaintance. Answer this questions in your head. Wouldn’t it be better, that you called some people who have hurt you real bad in the past a friend-enemy instead of friend? Friend; ‘’a friend is someone who knows you and understand you a lot, and who you know and understand a lot, but must not be a member of your fam...